23 December 2024

We all experience loneliness from time to time. But while the festive season can be a time of joy and connection – it can sometimes also have the opposite effect – making us feel lonely and disconnected. The pressure to be part of festive fun and feel and act happy can be tough when we feel differently or have complicated feelings about the holidays.  And if you’ve lost someone around this time of year, it can bring up tough memories of your loss. 

For our Grenfell impacted community, this time of year can be particularly challenging as it reminds us of our loved ones who are no longer with us, and with whom we may have shared in festivities in the past.

Please know, you are not alone. Many people will be going through the same experiences and find the festive season tough. 

Here are some things you can try that can help:

Try to challenge your perspective

This might be challenging the idea that everyone is having fun and recognising that many people will be facing their own struggles during the festive season.  Try to reflect on what you want during the season and focus on the things you can control. It can help to write this down as a list. 

Explore different ways of finding connection

Connecting with people is important for our mental health. But it does come in different forms. Connection isn’t just about being surrounded by people. We can feel it when we: 

  • Have a phone call with a friend
  • Chat online about your favourite book.
  • If we’re struggling with difficult feelings, it can help to open-up to someone. This might be someone you know and trust, or it could be through a helpline. 

Plan to do things you enjoy that keep you busy

Planning things to look forward is good for your mental health and wellbeing, trying to get a few things in the diary – like catching up with friends, getting out for a walk outdoors or catching up for a coffee.  Do activities that keep you busy and your mind stimulated.  What we enjoy is different for each of us, and that’s okay! 

We in the NHS are also here to help

Our opening hours over the bank holidays:

25 December (closed)

26 December (9am-5pm – telephone only)

1 January (9am-5pm – telephone only)

On all other days, we are operating as normal (weekdays 8am-8pm, weekends 9am-5pm).

To get in touch with us please call 0208 637 6279

For out of hours support please call the CNWL Urgent Advice line on: 0800 0234 650

If you need support you can also reach out to these services:

If you'd like to chat with someone, Samaritans are there for you on 116 123 (UK) for free, 24/7. They are there to listen. They won't judge or tell you what to do.

C.A.L.M.: National helpline anyone to talk about any troubles they are feeling. Call 0800 58 58 58 (UK). They are available from 5 pm to midnight, 365 days a year.

For support in a crisis, text Shout to 85258. If you’re experiencing a personal crisis, are unable to cope and need support, Shout can help with urgent issues such as suicidal thoughts, abuse or assault, self-harm, bullying, and relationship challenges.

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